After talking to a friend of mine-today-I started thinking about some of the important decisions we'll all face, at some point in our lives. Decisions like, how to pay for college http://www.collegemadesimple.com/ , for a wedding with a low budget, http://www.lowbudgetwedding.com/ , and probably one of the most important and heartbreaking in our lives-how to help our elderly parents,when the nursing home may be the next stop for them. http://aplaceformom.com/
Years ago, when I was younger, my mom offered to pay for me to go to community college -many times-, but as I'd just finished twelve years of school- I refused. It was a decision I lived to regret, as at 45 years of age, I'm just now starting my 4th semester of college.
But for most young people today college may be beyond their reach. Prices run into the thousands-each year- for tuition, books, food, lodging and all the extras. And most parents, if struggling, just cannot afford the amount needed to be paid-each year-for their kids to have a chance at a better life and future.
This can sometimes bring hurt and resentment. And these feeling are compounded if a parent can't afford to send all the kids to college.There are of course grants, if you qualify, but if not, your back in the same place you started from.
We also face, as the years go by, the prospect of marriage when we meet the one we're meant to spend the rest of our lives with. Then you pray -again-that your parents can help. The price of a wedding today can be ridiculous. You have to pay for a wedding gown, the brides maids gowns-in some cases-the wedding cake, the invitations, the flowers and decorations, the photographer, and- in some cases- lodging for out of town guests.
There are some like myself, that were blessed to have a mom that was able to pay for my wedding. Though the marriage didn't last but three years, my gratitude for what my mom did for me remained with me all my life.
But I think the most difficult decision we'll have to make in life-as I had to-is deciding what to do when our elderly loved ones face the possibility of having to go to a nursing home. This difficult decison carries the weight of years of pain and guilt that'll remain with us always.
"I never want to be a burden to you, if the time comes I want you to put me in a nursing home." said my mom years ago. It was adamantly refused as I never, ever considered that choice for my mom no matter what was said. But life took that choice away from me, when mom could no longer walk or get up on her own and dad and I had to have mom admitted into a rehab- so that she could get the help she needed to come home again.
There will always be decisons and choices we have to make in life and they won't always be easy. But for the lucky, college will be paid for-easily, the -low budget-wedding, will go smoothly- as planned, and their parents will always have a healthy life and never see the inside of a rehab-assisted living home.
I guess you could say my life worked with a two-thirds chance of success. Mom offered college, she paid for my wedding, but I faced her going to a rehab twice. May life be for most of us, happy and with decisions that are easier, not the choices that no one should ever have to make.