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I'm a SAHM who began writing, and not just thinking about it, in 2010. I thought graphic design was my future, but was surprised to learn that screenwriting was in my blood. I'm excited to say my first feature length is now being considered for optioning. Life's crazy sometimes, huh? :-)

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Each Like The Other?

Yesterday, it seems, she opened her eyes for the first time.  Of course I was in a drug induced state-what with the pain killers, and spinal tap- but I can still see the baby- whose cuteness was matched by none. She, my one and only child, with her many traits, and facets was-"and is"- as unique as any rare painting- to me.

I was therefore surprised at what I found on a website concerning -"an only child family"- 
http://www.birthorderandpersonality.com/ where they mention the types of traits that "first only"children have.  Of course, each child may exhibit different characteristics according to their environment and situation but some of the traits mentioned, I just don't think should be associated with all-only child- home situations.

The traits I agree my daughter shares include:getting along well with older people, maturing faster, being responsible, and preferring adult company.  She has always gotten along well with older adults and laughs along with what adults say just as easily as with kids her own age.  I also agree with her maturing faster, using adult language and preferring adult company-sometimes.

I didn't agree about her being self-centered, having difficulty sharing, being a perfectionist, or attention seeker as she is more along the lines of how her father is.  She lets things go, does not pick up toys,  or worry about the small stuff- at all. She will give give me little gifts, candy and offer her own food to me. 

She also shares her toys with her friends and has even given her own toys away if her friends have shown interest in them. So I guess you could say being a perfectionist and selfish is something I'd say to just throw out with the dishwater too-as far as only children are concerned. If you teach your "only child" to share and to be caring towards others they will not stray from those values.

So how are ideas, surveys, or opinions formed, as to what traits an "only child" has or should have?  What are the guidelines on this?  Who decides how an "only child" is judged? And is it right to decide how an "only child" is and put all kids into that one lump or category?

Is that guideline right to use on anything in life we have to face?  No I don't think so. We are each different, unique and should be treated as such.  I was not an only child and yet I shared many of the "only child" traits in my own childhood.

I think each of us, no matter what we face in life ,should never be placed in the mold that society thinks we should be in.  And even if some kids, etc. fall into the same criteria as others, we are each our own person, making our own decisions, living in a world that doesn't give an inch. So are "each like the other" as far as kids are concerned?  No, we each, as kids, are diamonds in the rough that grow into sparkling individuals- each of our own making.

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